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SINGLE MOTHER STRUGGLING
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Dear Willie D:
I am a single mother of two teenagers and one preteen. I sometimes find myself at a point where I don't think I can make it anymore when it comes down to providing for my family. Both of my daughters lost their fathers to violence a few years back, and my son's father is in his life but I receive no child support. My family and I are not as close as a family should be.
I often wonder if I should get a second job, but with three kids at home -- one who is only 11 and at the age where he needs me home more to give him the attention that kids need at that age -- I don't know. What's your best advice to me on how to get through this single-mother struggle?
The first thing you should do when money is tight is cut back on your lifestyle. Look around and eliminate anything costing you money that you don't need: cable TV, cigarettes, alcohol, cleaning services, credit cards, Starbucks, name-brand clothes and anything else you can think of. Take your lunch to work, don't eat out, and if you drive an expensive car downsize to something less expensive but reliable. Get the son's father to help out voluntarily or put the courts in his life.More »