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Dear Willie D:
I messed up big time, man. I'm involved in a three-year relationship outside of my marriage that has unintentionally produced a child. What's worse is that my wife has wanted to get pregnant for some time now, but I told her we should wait.
I feel guilty for not being able to announce to the world that I'm a father and who my son is. Moreover, I really feel bad about betraying my wife's trust. Knowing that I cheated is one thing, but if she found out that I also share a child with my mistress it would hurt her to no end. I have been struggling with the notion of revealing my deception intensely over the past several days.
I don't want to lose my wife. At the same time she needs to know the truth. Should I reveal my secret and if so, how do I explain my infidelity in a way that she will forgive me, and accept my son who is innocent in all of this?