I Want My Man to Prove He's Divorced. Help!

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DID I TAKE IT TOO FAR?

Dear Willie D:

In December of 2016, my boyfriend and I plan to get married. I'm however having second thoughts, because he has yet to produce a divorce decree from his previous marriage. When I ask him about it, he states he is indeed divorced, but the thought of coming up with the decree brings up some not so good moments.

I'm sure no one likes rehashing those kinds of memories, but I'm only asking for proof of it so that I can have peace of mind once we get married. I don't want to be one of those wives who has to risk losing everything we've worked hard for to someone who may feel like they're entitled to something that's not rightfully theirs.

I've given him until the end of next month to produce the decree, or I am willing to end it with him should he not come up with it. Am I overreacting? Am I taking it too far? Will, I just want peace of mind and to ensure I'm legally protecting what's ours.


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I Want to Get My Lip Pierced. Help!

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I'M A GUY THINKING ABOUT GETTING MY LIP PIERCED

Dear Willie D:

I have wanted to get my lip pierced for a while. I told my sister and she is against it, but a girlfriend of mine and my best friend said he thinks I should do it. I'm confused as the three people I just named are the closest people in my life, and they haven't given me a clear choice.

Being that I'm a guy, do you think people will look at me weird if I went through with it? I'm 19, if that helps.

Pierced Lip:

Being that I'm a guy, doing something like putting a ring anywhere on my body besides my fingers never even crosses my mind. I don't know about people looking at you weird, but putting a ring in your lip is an excellent way to make men who like men think you're about that life. But hey, when I was in my early twenties I briefly had my hair fried, dyed, and laid to the side like Little Richard, so what do I know?


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My New Man Is a Player. Help!

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THE GUY I LIKE IS A PLAYER

Dear Willie D:

For the past month I have been going out with a guy who is a known player. A part of me wants to surrender to him, but other parts of me remain reserved so that my feeling doesn't get hurt. How do I channel my emotions with this man?

Channeling Emotions:

The thing about hooking up with a player is a player will always feel entitled to play the field because you met him under those conditions. Have fun and enjoy his company if you must, but any type of happily-ever-after relationship is likely doomed. I feel for you because once your heart gets invested in a relationship it's hard to slam on the brakes and back up. But it beats running over something, or worse -- getting ran over.


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I Think I Want a Divorce. Help!

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SHOULD I CALL CPS ON MY MOM?

Dear Willie D:

So we're at the mall and I told my mom that I didn't feel like going back to the car to get her sunglasses, and she slaps me hard in the face in front of everybody. This isn't the first time she's hit me. I get beatings all the time for small stuff. I don't think it's fair the way she treats me. Just because I'm her child doesn't give her a right to abuse me.

I don't know if it's because they are both females that she treats my sister differently, but this is not right. The next time she hits me I'm going to call CPS (Child Protective Services) and report her. The only thing is I'm afraid they may take me away from my sister. I'm 15; what should I do?


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My Neighbor Is Creeping Me Out. Help!

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I'M WORRIED ABOUT MY SON

Dear Willie D:

My son is 15 years old and he doesn't have any friends. He spends most of his time in his room on his computer, and listening to music. He only comes out to eat, use the bathroom, and leave the house. When I ask him if there is something bothering him, he always says no. Every time he leaves home for school I search his room for drugs and other clues that might signal trouble, but I can't find anything.

He is a good student, and doesn't cause trouble. However, to be his age and be so anti-social is not normal. Call it mother's intuition, but I believe he's hiding something. What are your thoughts?


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I'm Ready to Lose My Virginity. Help!

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I'M 15 AND READY TO LOSE MY V-CARD

Dear Willie D:

I'm crushing on a guy who lives near my cousin who I met a month ago. He is 17 and I'm 15. He is fun, and attractive. I can tell he likes me because he's always calling and texting me, asking how I'm doing. My cousin says he's a player, but I don't see him like that. I know all about safe sex, and how to avoid getting pregnant.

I have been holding out for the right guy, and I know I'm taking a chance with him, but I'm ready to have sex because I'm always horny. I like him but if he didn't want to see me again it would hurt, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. If I make sure he wears a condom, what's the worst thing that can happen besides him not wanting to see me again?


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I'm in Love With Myself. Help!

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SHOULD I CHARGE MY KIDS' GROWN FRIENDS TO LIVE WITH ME?

Dear Willie D:

I have two adult children [a son and daughter] who live with me along with their three friends. One of the friends has a 2-year-old daughter. I pay all the bills. I'm retired, so I would like to spend my leisure time at home, but since my house is always crowded and noisy I spend most of my days at my sister's house, running errands so I don't have to be subjected to the chaos.

I don't mind my kids living with me rent-free, but I think their friends should be helping out financially. When I told my daughter that her friends need to start paying bills if they're going to live with us, she said they don't have any money. But the reason they don't have any money is because they don't work and refuse to seek employment.

The first time my daughter brought up the rent issue her friend said they were like family, and that they shouldn't have to pay bills because she doesn't have to. I feel bad for asking them to pay rent, but I think they should help out, don't you?


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Why Do Women Idolize Marilyn Monroe? Help!

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WHY DO SO MANY FEMALES IDOLIZE MARILYN MONROE?

Dear Willie D:

Please help me understand this. There is documented evidence that Marilyn Monroe was a homewrecker and a loose woman, to put it mildly. So why do countless females look up to her, and are so fascinated by her persona?

Putting It Mildly:

I used to wonder the same thing; not anymore. Besides her beauty, women are drawn to her because there's a piece of Marilyn Monroe in every woman. It's the piece that each woman relates to that makes her endearing to them. Marilyn was strong and fragile; fearless and afraid; happy and sad; lucid and incoherent; praised and scorned; innocuous and scandalous; liberated and enslaved; glamorous and disheveled; privileged and poor; desired and rejected.

She was also much more intelligent than people gave her credit for. The collective energy of her flaws, redemptive attributes, beauty, talent, smartness and her willingness to share her vulnerabilities with all of us is why Marilyn Monroe is so adored. To say she lived in a town where people make a living out of being fake, she was as real as they come.


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I Get Off With a Vacuum Cleaner. Help!

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SHOULD I TESTIFY AGAINST MY FRIEND'S EX-BOYFRIEND?

Dear Willie D:

I've been getting to know this woman, but haven't crossed the line intimately. I was over at her place and her child's father (they aren't together) came over and started some mess. She and I stood up for each other and he left only to call the cops. I ended up being told that I have a court date in which I was a circumstantial witness to a domestic dispute.

I was told by her lawyer to take the stand against this guy on behalf of this woman and all domestically abused women. I understand that it happens the other way around too. But now I'm in a situation where my life is at risk in the coming years for a woman who isn't even 100 percent sure about her commitment to me.

If I testify against him people will say, "Oh, he's a snitch." If I don't testify on my friend's behalf she'll never forgive me for not standing up for her. That'll eat me alive from within. What a tangled web we weave. What should I do?


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I Live Well But I'm Not Happy. Help!

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I WANT TO LEARN HOW TO BE HAPPY

Dear Willie D:

I'm a computer analyst who makes over $80,000 a year. I like my job, but that's all it is; a job. I live in a nice house, and drive a nice car. I have a wife and 4-year-old daughter who I absolutely adore, but I'm not happy. I try to be happy and sometimes it works, but not for long. I may be happy for a day or two tops, and then I'm sad again. I don't know if I'm depressed or what.

I should be happy. After all, I have all of the things that society says should be a reflection of happiness. You're a successful man. Have you ever felt unhappy for long stretches of time? If so what did you do to cope?

Unhappy Feelings:

It depends on what your definition of long stretches of time is. The longest stretch of unhappiness for me was when my mother died. I was depressed for months. However, typically a long stretch of unhappiness for me is five minutes. That's because rather than internalizing setbacks, disappointments, and conflict, I compartmentalize them so that I can focus effectively on business and personal relationships.


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