I'm Hypnotized by My Ex's Booty. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
I very much enjoyed your segment on TV One's Unsung. You are an inspiration to the younger generation. Unsung covered most of your life, but covered very little of your educational achievements. Which high school did you attend, and what year did you graduate?
I attended Forest Brook in Houston, which was later consolidated with M.B. Smiley, and named North Forest High School. I got kicked out of the whole school district two months before graduation for fighting, and never went back.
I was supposed to graduate in '86. Every time I think about how close I came to the finish line and didn't cross it, I'm reminded of Fred's infamous running insult of his son Lamont in the television series Sanford & Son: You big dummy!
I DON'T KNOW IF I LOVE MY HUSBAND
Dear Willie D:
For the past couple of years I've been questioning my love for my husband. We've been married for six years, but we've been together for about ten years since high school; we are now 24 and 27. I cannot complain about life with our son who is now seven, and I'm glad we're not another teen pregnancy divorce statistic -- although we almost did get there.
We did about a year and a half ago end two years of trouble when I caught him talking to other women, but thankfully I believe we have overcome that. Although everything seems to be what a family and marriage should be, I cannot stop the thoughts of curiosity about other men, which started ever since I found him talking to other women.
We have what I think is an okay sex life, and I have tried "everything" in the book but seem to still find myself bored. Sadly I did start having intercourse at a very young age before my husband, and I can say I've had better (in size, not experience) than him. I don't know how to stop my curiosity in hopes of not cheating on my husband, and being at risk of ruining my family. How do I stop these thoughts, be happy with my husband sexually, and be in love with him?
Who you were at 14 is not who you are at 24. That is why experienced adults warn against young marriages. I'm sure both your and your husband's views and values have changed over the years. Get back to communicating, and doing fun things together. Start doing things to strengthen your bond such as dreaming together again, and find a hobby or project to do that requires the two of you to work together as a team.
Don't be afraid to seek professional help. A good counselor can help you reconnect, and rediscover all the reasons you fell in love in the first place. Be wary about jumping into a divorce. Divorce usually seems like an excellent idea; that is until your new boo ends up being worse than your old one.
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