I'm Bored With My Boyfriend. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
My girlfriend and I have been together for three years, and I'm ready for the next step in our relationship. I want to marry her, but every time I talk about long-term commitment she changes the subject and says stuff like, "Let's just live in the moment" and "Anything can happen." I'm not satisfied with just dating. I'm 32 years old; she's 31, and neither of us have kids.
I thought the idea of being in a committed relationship was to get married and build a future together, but she seems to be on a different page. I love her a lot, but I'm starting to feel like I'm wasting my time. What in the hell does she mean by, "Anything can happen?"
What she means is, she wants to leave her options open in case things don't work out or in case someone better than you comes along. It's time to kill all the speculation and flat-out ask her to marry you. If she says yes you're set, but if she says no you may want to consider pitching her back into the sea, and fishing again.
You've been playing house with your girlfriend for three solid years. You're way past the "Anything can happen" stage.
HELP ME BREAK UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND
Dear Willie D:
I have been dating a certain guy for about eight months, but I want to break up with him. He doesn't seem like he really wants to be with me because he is always putting his friends before me. If I call him he'll come over to my house, and most of the time we will end up having sex, but it's never sensual or special like a girl expects. He also cheated on me twice; I think he's just with me for sex.
Basically our relationship is boring. The only reason we're still together is out of familiarity. I have finally accepted that I don't want to go on like this. What should I say to break it off with him without making him mad at me?
Tell him you're pregnant.
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