I Don't Like Him the Way He Likes Me. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
I'm a 17-year-old runaway who has been living with a 26-year-old man for three months now. I just got tired all of the rules at home. My parents know I'm living with a guy, but they think he's closer to my age. We have sex from time to time, and we do things together, but I don't consider him my boyfriend. I have told him that I only want to be friends, but he treats me like I'm his girl.
He introduces me to his friends as his girlfriend, and whenever I talk to other guys on the phone he goes into a rage. I'm only staying with him because he literally begged me to, and he said that I didn't have to pay any bills. When I ran away from home it was his idea. Yes, I knew he wanted more than a platonic relationship, but he convinced me that we could just be friends. Now he acts like we're in a relationship.
He is way too clingy, so I'm looking for somewhere else to live, but at the moment I don't have anywhere to go. I'm not in school, and I don't have a job. What should I do?
I'm sorry that you are going through this. It's time to suck it up and go home; then enroll back into school the first chance you get. You only have to be at your parents' house for a year or so. After that you can go to college, or get a job and your own place. When you go back home try to hang out with your friends as long as possible. When your parents tell you to do something do it, and when they deny you a privilege don't be a brat. Instead, be grateful for all the times they gave you what you wanted.
In life everyone has rules to follow, your parents included. So obey the rules of the house and be responsible. It's your mom and dad's house. They pay the bills so they call the shots. No one is going to let you come into their house and do whatever you want to do. You can try, but when you wave a red flag at a bull you can't act surprised when he rages.
I NEED TO KNOW HOW TO HOOK UP WITH A BLACK WOMAN
Dear Willie D:
I am Asian and I want to branch outside of my race to date. I am 36 years of age, have lived in America for 15 years, and have never dated an African-American woman. I live and work in an Asian community. How do I meet an African-American woman and what should I say to her?
Are you trying to get me killed? Black men are already mad about the increase of black women dating outside of their race. But hey -- it's a free country, and since I'm a nice guy I'm going to help you out. After all, you can't tell a person who to love. That said, it would have been helpful if you had shared with me exactly why you want to date a black woman.
If you are interested in black women because you have bought into a particular stereotype, you are going to be supremely disappointed. As with women of other ethnic groups, there are millions of black women with various degrees of morals, values, personalities, religious beliefs, political association, family background, origin, appearance and character.
If you want to meet black women, start off by doing what you did to meet Asian women: include them in your circle or inject yourself into their circle. Support an organization that has black female members. Hang out at nightclubs that black women frequent or join a predominately black church.
When you meet one you like, introduce yourself and make small talk. Don't go for instant-gratification; try to become friends first. If you don't break the ice, you'll at least chip it.
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