My Folks Don't Know My Teenage Sister Is Eloping. Help!
I FAKE ORGASMS WITH MY HUSBAND
Dear Willie D:
I haven't had an orgasm with my husband since we've been married [9 years]. I have managed to give myself orgasms. I'm still attracted to him, but I just can't come to a climax when we're making love. Is it him, or me?
It's you, and your husband. Most women can't reach a climax from intercourse alone because their clitoris isn't getting enough stimulation. Many women enjoy oral sex so if that's your thing tell him so the next time you're together intimately. Also before, and during penetration get him to gently stroke your clitoris with his fingers, or a sex toy using lots of lubricant or you can do it yourself.
You guys need to work together, and not play the blame game. You're just as responsible for your orgasm and his as he is for his, and yours.
SHOULD I TELL MY PARENTS THAT MY SISTER IS ELOPING?
Dear Willie D:
My sister, who is a freshman in college, told me she is going to elope on her 18th birthday in two weeks. She is doing it because she knows my parents will never approve of her boyfriend who cursed my mom out about four months ago, and has been to jail for burglary. Her boyfriend really isn't a bad guy. Other than his temper, he is great to be around. I don't know how to feel about all of this. I love my sister and I don't want to rat her out, but this is a big step.
We have always kept our secrets between us, and had each other's backs for better or worse. When I damaged my dad's car last year and had it painted, she never once said anything to anyone. Our parents aren't the best, but they aren't the worst either. If my sister goes through with her plans they will be crushed that they weren't informed, let alone asked to participate. Would I be wrong to break our sisterly bond and tell them what's up?
You would be wrong as two left shoes if you ratted out your sister. It's her life, and if she wants to elope, it's her prerogative. With that said, we live in a very selfish world where people do whatever they want without any consideration for others. When family members don't support a relationship elopement usually occurs. But if family, specifically parents, has been supportive of us, even if they hate the guts of the person we intend to marry, we should at least consider a middle ground.
At the minimum I think she should give your parents the option to attend the ceremony; whether it's a big party, a Fat Elvis Vegas wedding, or held at the courthouse. In the end, however, it doesn't matter if your parents are involved in the wedding or not, they will still be disappointed because they don't approve of the boyfriend, not to mention the fact that your sister will only be 18 when she elopes.
The thing that disturbs me most about all of this is, your soon-to-be brother-in-law cursed out your mother and you said he's great to be around. What part of the game is that?
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