We Broke Up, But Now I Want Him Back. Help!

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Dear Willie D:

I just got out of a bad relationship with a guy who is a dog in every sense of the word; all he needs is a collar and leash. Not only was he unfaithful, he was a user. Anytime we went somewhere, he always expected me to pay. My boyfriend before him was the polar opposite: if we went out, he insisted on paying for lunch and dinner. He opened doors and was an all-around gentlemen.

He was also loyal to me. But when he allowed me to take him for granted, I guess I just got used to walking over him and lost respect for him. Soon I started being cordial with a guy at the gym where I work out. I will admit my attraction to him was mainly physical at first because he was in great shape and he knew it. He is above average-looking but his physique gave him a level of confidence that women find attractive.

Shortly after meeting him I broke it off with my boyfriend to pursue a relationship with him. But after just two months in I realized that I had made a big mistake and ended the relationship. I want my old boyfriend back but I'm ashamed to tell him. How do I build up the courage to ask him back?

Unappreciative Ex:

Assuming that he is available, even if he's not available the first thing you need to do is contact the man and apologize. Let him hear you verbalize what he already knows; you took his kindness for weakness and thought you were better than him. You only live once, so you may as well give it a shot. If he doesn't have a girlfriend ask him would he like to meet you for lunch or coffee. Share with him how immature you were and that being with the other guy really made you appreciate how great of a guy he is.

It's only been a couple of months since the two of you have been apart, so there's a good chance he still has feelings for you. If he takes you back it will take some time for him to trust you again. But you can expedite the process by reintroducing to him the girl he first fell in love with. Humble yourself and keep in mind: your feet are made to walk on pavement, not people.


Dear Willie D:

I live in a high-rise building filled with dog owners. Sometimes when I get into the elevator with my dog other larger dogs become aggressive towards her, and I have to get between them. I have a beagle who barks but otherwise wouldn't harm a fly, but some of the other dogs are very aggressive and if given the chance they would likely kill my dog. How can I get the other owners to control their dogs?

Dogged Owner:

Politely tell them to control their dog and that your dog doesn't want to interact with theirs. Speak softly, and carry a big stick -- literally.

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Unappreciative Ex.  Something tells me you might be deserving of a collar and leash as well.  You should try to learn from this and move on.  Leave the poor guy alone.  You walked all over him once and you will most likely do it again.  The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. 

Now, after doing the horizontal Zumba with a gym-rat you are probably due for a thorough STD testing session.  


Unappreciative Ex, you are an immature bitch.  Like a little kid who wants a new toy so badly, only to realize its not that great.    I hope your "good guy" ex is 1) not damaged by your selfish, shithouse, disgusting behavior;  2) is in a happy and healthy new relationship with someone who truly values him; and, 3) laughs at you when you make your move to get back with him. 

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