My Doctor Is Out of Control. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
I am a single mother of two teenagers and one preteen. I sometimes find myself at a point where I don't think I can make it anymore when it comes down to providing for my family. Both of my daughters lost their fathers to violence a few years back, and my son's father is in his life but I receive no child support. My family and I are not as close as a family should be.
I often wonder if I should get a second job, but with three kids at home -- one who is only 11 and at the age where he needs me home more to give him the attention that kids need at that age -- I don't know. What's your best advice to me on how to get through this single-mother struggle?
The first thing you should do when money is tight is cut back on your lifestyle. Look around and eliminate anything costing you money that you don't need: cable TV, cigarettes, alcohol, cleaning services, credit cards, Starbucks, name-brand clothes and anything else you can think of. Take your lunch to work, don't eat out, and if you drive an expensive car downsize to something less expensive but reliable. Get the son's father to help out voluntarily or put the courts in his life.
I admire the fact that although you're thinking of taking a second job, you're considering how the time away from home might affect your kids. Lord knows in this day and time we need more parents spending quality time with their kids. With so many people having success working from home today, that may be a good option for you also. If everything works out, you might be able to quit your first job and work full-time from home.
Remember, whatever you decide to do your situation is temporary, not permanent. You just need to make some adjustments until you can get on your feet. I know life seems gloomy at the moment, but it gets better. Sometimes we have to crawl in the dark before we can walk in the light.
MY DOCTOR IS OUT OF CONTROL
Dear Willie D:
I went to the dentist to have my wisdom tooth removed, and my dentist was so distracted by his wife serving him divorce papers that he injected Lidocaine in the wrong area and proceeded to pull my tooth without properly numbing it and the surrounding tissues. As I was lying back on the lift chair kicking and screaming, he told me to stop acting like a baby.
When he was done he washed his hands, and stormed out of the room; no after-care instructions; no have a nice day -- nothing. The stupid nurse who was in the room just stood there shaking her head, telling me to excuse him because his wife is divorcing him.
Well, guess what? I'm suing him for malpractice. Injecting anesthetics in the wrong area for surgery and telling the patient to stop acting like a baby because she is crying out in pain: who does that?
Kicking and Screaming:
Just be glad your doctor's name isn't Conrad Murray.
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