My Friend Is a Real Hothead. Help!


SHE DOESN'T WANT KIDS BUT WON'T USE PROTECTION

Dear Willie D:

What does it mean when a female tells you she's not interested in having kids, but when you have sex with her she wants you to take off the contraceptive, and she's not on the pill?

Take Off:

It means she's trying to get pregnant, and believe she's found a fish-eyed fool from a cave in the Himalayas to do the job.


HOME-WRECKER

Dear Willie D:

I'm a happily married woman with two kids, and a wonderful job. My problem is my coworkers, and a particular girlfriend. They are always speaking so negatively about men. Most of them are single, divorced or having some type of relationship issues. When I tell them I cook for my husband, and wash his clothes they turn their noses up at me as if I passed gas or something.

Whenever my friend asks me to hang out, and I tell her that I'm going to consult with my husband first, she loses her mind. I know that a lot of new-age young women find my ways repulsive, but I don't view consulting with my man before I hang out with my girls or make major decisions as being passive, or weak. To me it's all about respect, and common courtesy.

That's what I saw my mom do with my dad, and 32 years later they're still in love, and going as strong as ever. What I struggle to understand is most of the women I know want to be in a serious relationship with a man who treats them good, but they don't want to sacrifice anything because they're much too prideful. My friend relentlessly dogs me for being the way that I am, but yet I'm in a happy relationship and she's not.

It hurts me to think that she might be a home-wrecker. I know she's hurting, but I want her to stop making insensitive comments about my marriage. How should I go about addressing her without hurting her feeling?

Happy Relationship:

Oh how misery loves company, and plenty of it. It's difficult for a happily married woman, or any woman who is committed to making her relationship work, to hang out with women who are single, divorced or unhappily married. Oftentimes, women who fall into these categories are jaded, and they see the worst in all men, including yours. Men are similar in nature, but it's harder for a bitter man to influence his friend on how to treat the woman he's with, because men put their women above their friends, while women put their friends above their men.

Having friends butt in on our relationship matters from time to time is the price we pay to have friends. But if your friends are always trying to get you to see your partner's perceived faults rather than his virtues, you should consider new friends. Having said that, women who have a good relationship should be mindful that some women just don't want to hear that they have to check with their husband before going to the nail shop with their girlfriend. So instead of telling your friend you have to check with your husband, a better way to put it might be to say, "Let me see what I have going on, and I'll get back with you."

To put an end to your friend's insensitive remarks, tell her something along these lines: "Hey, I know you've been burned by men in the past, and you're angry, but the negative comments about my husband and my marriage have to stop right here and now. I would like us to continue being friends, but if you can't honor my request I understand, and I wish you well in life."

If you feel like it, when you turn to walk away you can chunk up the deuces for good measure. Don't worry about her feelings. She's not worried about yours.


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