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I CAUGHT MY BOYFRIEND AT THE MOTEL, BUT WAS HE CHEATING?
One night my boyfriend didn't come home, so I called him and he never answered. I asked the Lord to show me a sign that he was cheating, and on a hunch I checked his credit card statement. It said: Woodland Inn. So I went up there blowing the horn, then I put his tires on flat. I never saw him but he said he heard me, and was scared to come outside.
Deep down I feel like he's full of s---, but he swears on his grandmother that no one was in the motel room with him. He really wants me to put it in the past, but the situation is too new. Do you think I should believe his ass?
Of course you should believe him because that was not a motel. It was a rooming house in a bad neighborhood, and he was only there because he was checking out a retirement spot for his dear grandmother.
When he heard the horn blowing, and saw it was you he panicked not because he had done anything wrong, but because that's what a man does when his woman pulls up blowing her car horn, slices his tires, and demands that he come outside. That could've been about anything. Better safe than sorry.
MY STEPDAUGHTER IS RUINING MY MARRIAGE
Dear Willie D:
I've been married for 19 years. My stepchild was brainwashed by her mom to hate me and her dad. I met her dad when she was seven years old; she's now 30. Her dad feels guilty so he bends over backwards to try to undo what her mom did by any means. The problem is I have been made the sacrificial lamb. The child has been allowed to disregard [me] and speak ill of me without my husband checking her.
This has been a progression over the past decade. She doesn't respect our marriage, and he's cool with it just to have any piece of a relationship with her. I am beginning to lose respect for him as a man. His daughter told him, "You keep bringing up your wife's name to me. I told you she's irrelevant in my life."
He didn't reprimand her. How could I not lose respect for him? I am upset that I have bitten my tongue all these years. I never slapped her, or her mom. That's the thanks I get; really? That really took a piece of my heart. He told me I've changed, and he doesn't feel the love anymore. You don't say?
This is an issue that should have been nipped in the bud 23 years ago. A family divided against itself cannot stand together. No matter how much two people love each other, sometimes in order to grow they have to grow apart.
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