My Girl Doesn't Want Sex Anymore. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
How do I make my baby daughter stop crying and go to sleep?
I guess you didn't get one of those after-birth pamphlets they issue in the maternity ward that tells you how to care for your newborn. But don't trip -- I got you.
When babies cry, it's almost always because they are either hungry or have a soiled diaper that needs changing. But sometimes babies have been spoiled to the point where the only way to put them to sleep is to hold and rock them. If neither of those methods work to put your daughter to sleep she might be sick, in which case you should seek medical attention immediately.
MY GIRLFRIEND DOESN'T WANT SEX ANYMORE
Dear Willie D:
I need some help. I'm in a relationship that's great, but the only thing is the sex. We don't have it enough. I try to do everything I can to set the mood, but all she wants to do is cuddle and kiss.
I mean that's cool, but not all the time. Then when I go in for the kill she wants to do it later or another day. I'm trying my best not to do something I will regret as far as sex with another female. Please give me some advice?
As time passes in a relationship the amount of sex you have, and the excitement derived from it, will ultimately decrease. It's up to you to decide how much. Sex relaxes men, but women have to be relaxed already. Trying to coerce a woman into having sex can lead to degradation, and anxiety, subsequently causing her to shut down even more. Sometimes women can go from being great sexually to not wanting to be bothered at all because their emotions kick in, and they start to feel objectified.
Your girlfriend is still cuddling and kissing, so it doesn't appear that she's moved on. It sounds like to me she's rejecting you because she feels emotionally/spiritually disconnected, or she's waiting on you to make a move and do something unusual to spice up the bedroom action. Ask her if she wants to try something new, or what it is that you could do better in the relationship.
Catering to your significant other goes both ways. While it's important that you consider her needs, it's equally important that she consider yours. Every true player in the game of love knows satisfaction is gained more often when you give it.
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