I'm In Love With a Married Man. Help!

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Dear Willie D:

I might sound crazy but I have been in a relationship with a married man for three years. I can't seem to leave him alone. He really makes me happy and I have fallen in love. I try to date other people, but I can't seem to get over him. I always end up back with this man as much as I try to get away. I want your advice on how to really get out of this situation for good.

Can't Let Go:

Call your friend and tell him it's over. Stop calling him. Stop returning his phone calls. Stop emailing him. Stop texting him. Stop liking his Facebook updates. Stop looking at his pictures on Instagram. Stop answering the door whenever he comes to your house. Stop having sex with him. Stop kissing him. Stop thinking about him.

Wait a minute. Did you say you're in love? Never mind.


Dear Willie D:

I'm a 17-year-old young man that has no clue as to what I want to do with my life. I only know what I don't want to do, which is become a doctor like my parents. I appreciate the privileges afforded to me by parents with great careers, but I don't like the long hours away from home and family. My parents pretty much missed out on my entire childhood. They have it all set up for me to attend medical school at their alma mater.

I know that it will disappoint them to no end if I decide against their wishes, but I'm determined to make my own way and live the life that I want to live just as they're doing for themselves. But how do I express my sentiments without offending them?

All Set Up:

Parents want their kids to be financially successful but above all they want them to be happy. Happiness -- that's your trump card. Now let me tell you how to play it. Go to your parents and tell them how proud you are of their accomplishments and how much you admire their profession but it's not for you. You don't have to tell them the real reason behind your decision. It might devastate them and cause them to believe that you think they're bad parents. Instead, talk about what it is that you have a passion for.

Your conversation will go over a lot smoother if you had an idea of what you want to do with your life before you speak with them. You can always change your mind later but give them something. However, if you tell them you want to become a male dancer, brace yourself to be disowned. They're doctors, which means they're likely to have conservative values when it comes to a career choice. But all is not lost.

To disown a child because he or she followed a career path other than your own is silly, and in time any parent that does will realize the error of his or her ways and embrace the fact that their child is doing exactly what he or she wants to do with his or her life and is happy. Money pays the bills, but happiness is reason to live.

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Sometimes you have to read between the lines. Vehicular homicide means killer but obviously that doesn't compare to taking a gun or knife or blunt object and murdering someone. Although I don't have a criminal record I agree with Willie that taxation without representation is tyranny.  It should be unconstitutional to demand that a person who has satisfied his sentence with the court forfeit his right to vote or bear arms forever. All it does is make those people who qualify unpatriotic and bitter, in which case our country would be less safe and productive. For those of us looking for answers to the crime problem in America it makes us feel good but it doesn't fix the problem. The politicians know that but they pander to the robot base by APPEARING to be tough on crime. By doing so they get to keep their under performing jobs.

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"In my opinion, whether you're allowed to reside at a rental property should have no bearing on your criminal record unless you are a killer or sexual predator."

Um, "vehicular homicide," means killer. And while NO ONE should lose the right to vote, NO ONE convicted of a felony, especially a violent felony should EVER be able to own a fire arm. Otherwise, some guy beats his girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/date bloody or some gal beats her kid, they catch a felony for assault and now they can buy a weapon. I don't know about you but that gives me the heebie jeebies. 

But, hey, let's ditch violent crimes. If you're judgement is so bad that you believe no one will notice you embezzling $500K from Dewy, Cheatem, and Howe, LLC, why should I think your judgement is gonna be any better when you're strapped up with cold-steel business?

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