Ask Willie D: My Grown Pothead Son Won't Move Out

Welcome to Ask Willie D, Rocks Off's advice column where the Geto Boys MC answers reader questions about matters, in his own words, "funny, serious or unpredictable." Something on your mind? Ask Willie D!

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Willie D, my son is a complete and utter deadbeat. Since he graduated from high school four years ago, he has been to jail twice: once for possession of marijuana and the other time for driving with a suspended license. He still lives at home with me and his father, and all he does every single moment of the day is smoke weed, sleep, eat and use the bathroom.

Growing up, he was a good kid but he wasn't required to do chores, and we -- or should I say I -- gave him everything he wanted without conditions. His father says it's time for him to get out on his own and become a man. But knowing how I handicapped him, I can't bring myself to kick my son out of the house. I feel responsible. What do I do?


Children are like bank accounts: You get out of them what you put into them. If your account balance is $50 and you write a check for $2,000, what do you think is going to happen?

At this point your son's behavior might be irreversible. Children have to be given boundaries and taught the value of work and responsibility in their most formative years, which many experts say is birth to 15. By not teaching your son the habit of responsibility, by default you taught him the habit of irresponsibility.

If you really want your grown son out of your house, on his own and functioning as a responsible adult, give him a move-out date and stick to it; six to nine months should be plenty of time for him to find a job and get his own place.

If he fails to do so within that time period, you will have to inject some tough love and kick him out, or he might become your bingo partner in a few years.

Willie D


Willie D,

What kind of woman would a man take home to his mom?


As far as men with discriminating taste are concerned, there are two types of females. One is the fun girl who is Rick James super-freaky. She is unpredictable and exhilarating.

The other is the steady, sure type. She cares about what people think of her and goes to great lengths to protect her reputation; this is the one he feels will make a good wife and mother. She will be the one who gets the ring, his last name and the coveted visit to Mom's house.

But let's keep it real. The average man these days will take home anything the wind blows in to meet his mother. As long as he likes her, that's all that matters.

But that's the dude who has little respect for a mother's wisdom. He thinks fat meat ain't greasy. Don't be surprised if he ends up on the wrong end of a Lifetime Movie.

Willie D

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On Snubbed; when it's over, it's over. That applies to ALL relationships. You try to hold on to something that's finished and you'll forever be the n'er-do-well loser who's pitied or the door mat who's used. Let it go and move on. 


Grown men, you are on notice: The manchild/unemployed bit is not attractive in the slightest.


I've been reading Houston Press for a minute now and I actually kinda lost interest in it for a while. Finding out one of the most underrated rappers in music has an advice column in Houston Press- and that it's filled with practical wisdom I can relate to- has been making me want to check Houston Press more often. I love your column and please keep it up, Willie D.


Willie D should make this out of a tv show.  

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