The Gothic Council on Maintaining Facebook Sanity
The illustrious, honorable, and not at all to be taken seriously Gothic Council went on a membership drive this week, seeking the cream of the goth world for their inspiring insights into every day life... Or I just grabbed the first six people I found in my newsfeed. One of those.
The reason for all the new blood is that a lot of the regular contributors to this column have deleted their Facebooks or simply no longer choose to login, and Facebook is where the Gothic Council meets. While some did it to eliminate a distraction while they started work on new projects, the most common response I get when asked is, "Because of all the drama."
And drama, it do abound. I dare you to find a single person who didn't unfriend or get unfriended by a Facebook acquaintance over the clucstercluck that was the Chick-Fil- debate. The world of the internet seems increasingly hostile, and a fair number of people have decided to just opt out of social networking all together to relieve the hassle of fighting with people over politics, religion, animals, and One Direction.
So this week I asked my Councilors to become Counselors, and offer some advice on how to maintain sanity of Facebook. Joining us this week is founder of the Age of Decay festival Alethea Carr, Hex of deathrock act Cultured Decay, DJ Martin Oldgoth, fashion designer Batty, Sara Rockey of the Dark Lantern Society, Augustine Strange of Wasteland Omaha, blogger Drusilla Grey, artist Jez Smith of Studio777 Arts, and photographer Michelle Weissman.
Alethea Carr: It's like anything else: put a limit on the time you spend on it, have some other things in your life that you participate in, know what you can control and what you can't, and most importantly, don't take yourself so damned seriously.
Hex: Don't post anything too personal, no drunken status updates, if someone tries calling you on something on your page or in a thread, just ignore them, it's pretty childish to try and lure someone into a fight over the internet plus it shows a lack of a spine
Martin Oldgoth: Lists are a good way of moving people out of sight. You can hide people in them and just check now and then that they're OK, a bit like giving them time out when they annoy you, letting them out when they behave again!
Mostly though I just hide posts when they appear if I know they're going to annoy me, I have no time for drama so move on and leave people to it.
Batty: I'll say the same thing regarding keeping sane on Facebook as I have had to learn from being on the net since the early '90s. You have to tell yourself that no matter what kind of "drama" or bullshit you read online that really when you turn the computer off, it's gone. It's all people hiding behind the screens. If they drag the drama to real life deal with them in person, but as far as Facebook bullshit, I just delete if it's something too inappropriate. I'd quote that old internet mantra about arguing on the net/the Special Olympics, but then I would just be a un-PC old curmudgeon, but I am sure plenty of you remember that old meme.
On the other hand if it's someone saying something that makes them look like a dumb-ass by all means I leave it in my comments, it's the best weapon against stupid ever, just let them out themselves!
The older I get the less I give a crap about things on the net. I really think just getting used to it and growing a thick skin is the best medicine.