The End of the Road: Digital Mourning in 2012

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At the Houston Press office, I am usually the first person who finds out when a celebrity or musician dies, usually from a wire or, these days, the fine folks at TMZ. Hell, sometimes even when I am away from my desk I have to be the bearer of bad tidings, like when Adam Yauch passed on a few weeks ago. The "Breaking News" alert app on my phone brings me a lot of bad news, even on the toilet in a hotel in New Orleans.

In the office, I usually take out my earbuds and say, "So-and-So just died," wait for a somber response or a sad groan, and put my buds back in and attempt to get the ball rolling on a blog. When Michael Jackson's last day unfolded, I gave everyone here the play-by-play sequence that went from home to hospital to morgue.

Blame it on my needle-to-the vein addiction to social media and my undying allegiance to being "the first." It's in the job description, I suppose.

But here in the social-media age, the phenomenon of digital mourning brings new facets to a well-known person's death, things that didn't exist a decade or so ago. A mass of eulogies comes almost immediately, from a variety of news outlets, all saying wonderful things, glossing over the shitty albums, the arrests, the drugs.

The story is now steered not by the journalists, though, but by the common people. They take the news where they want it to go.

Most times if we know that you are dying or living life on the edge, we journalists write copy celebrating your existence on Earth before you are even pronounced dead. The New York Times writer who wrote a flowery obituary for actress Elizabeth Taylor died six years before she did.

Then fellow celebrities begin weighing in, offering heartfelt messages of love that their PR people type for them or they dictate. Even if you didn't know the dead person beyond a handshake at an industry mixer, you say that you had a warm rapport with the stiff. Maybe that you wanted to collaborate one day. Mostly lies.

When Amy Winehouse died last year, even the dude from 311 had something to say.

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This topic has crossed my mind with all the recent RIP happenings. It has made me realize the shortness of life and how some celebrities play a vital emotional part of our own lives. Personally, you can't go wrong with the standard RIP message however generic and it's the one I often use. It's brief and to the point. No brain storm required. Besides I lack the comic sharpness and end up looking like a dork when I try otherwise.


Having mourned the loss of Adam Yauch, this piece really speaks to me. I did scream out on my page, "THIS MEANS A LOT TO ME" and those who didn't get it, I thought don't get me, which, is probably a good thing to know.

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