Is Rap Acceptable In Your Sex Mix?
Some rappers happen to be thoughtful, intelligent people. Every Monday (that isn't a national holiday) Rocks Off will have some of them here discussing issues relevant to their culture.
This Week's Panel: Chuckway, Renzo, Kyle Hubbard
Photo illustration by John Seaborn Gray
Not Invited: Our wife, who thinks rap is unacceptable during sex, as well as while riding in the car, dancing at a club, and just life in general.
This Week's Prompt: So we've got a question this week that a reader passed along -actually, he's passed it along every week for the past three weeks. And since it looks like he's going to continue to do so for the rest of time until it gets answered, we figured we'd just put it to you all so he goes away. Here's an excerpt from his email:
"My girlfriend gets mad at me because I like to listen to rap music while we do it. I don't understand this. Rap music is beautiful. Can you ask the [Round Table] panel their opinion on this? Is it okay for me to listen to rap during intercourse? What about if it's something relevant like Scarface's "Fuck Faces"? Please help."
Easy enough: Is it okay to listen to rap during sex? If so, which artists? If not, which artists are excluded?
Chuckway: It doesn't matter to me... really I just need a tempo to do it to [laughs].
Rocks Off: Cool. So J-Dawg's "Back Trippin'," that's a good one then? We imagine that that's what Hannibal Lecter listens to when he beds a woman. Or eats a woman. Whatev.
Renzo: To me, it depends on what you're trying to do. If you're making love then I don't think that it's normal to have rap music in the mix because rap is usually aggressive. However, if you plan on beating it up for little while to spice things up, I would recommend a little M.O.P. while it's going on.
What you wanna avoid though is choosing a song that has a really crazy lyric that demeans her while it's happening. You are supposed to be providing yourself with a soundtrack so try not to slide a Too Short record unless she knows she's just a fly-by-night chick. It's messed up but it's true. No artist is off limits, just make sure the action is matching the soundtrack.
Rocks Off: Okay, we think we understand: Song = intent. So, it's like if we put on that song that Drake and The-Dream did from Thank Me Later, that'd be good for keeping it a sort of upbeat-sexy. And if we put on Z-Ro, that'd be good for stabbing her in the neck and then robbing her after we're finished?
Renzo: You got the first part right but the Z-Ro part I think you haven't quite got it together. Z-Ro would make you beat the coochie up then tell her about all of your problems afterwards, then would probably dismiss her because you would have trust issues. That's how it works.
Rocks Off: That does make more sense.