ReShonda Tate Billingsley: Local Author's Punishment Of Daughter Sparks Social-Media Debate

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ReShonda Tate Billingsley is a romance author of such books as Can I Get a Witness? and Holy Rollers.

It's not her writing that has people talking about her online, though, it's what's happened with her daughter.

Tate Billingsley's daughter posted a picture of herself on Instagram holding a vodka bottle with a sign saying, "Wish I could drink this."

Tate Billingsley saw it, gave her daughter a talking-to and then took another picture for Instagram: the daughter holding a sign saying, "Since I want to take pictures holding liquor, I'm obviously not ready for social media and will be taking a hiatus until I learn what is and isn't appropriate to post. Bye-bye."

The debate began, among other places, on Tate Billingsley's Facebook page:

Don Plotner This is a perfect example of emotional abuse.

You have manipulated your child's feelings with humiliation in an attempt to control her. Why are you not spending that envergy in trying to control your child's environment? An environment with out the availability of alcohol. Where did she gain access to the alcohol in the first place?

Why are you not spending that energy trying to boost your child's confidence and self esteem so that she does not resort to these types of behaviors?

Why have you confused humility with humiliation?

Frances Christiansen Don perhaps you are the one out of touch see it starts with a drinking game and escalates with that. Should this childs mother have waited unitl her daughter was posing with a needle?


Tate Billingsley told KTRK, "If social media is where you wanna show out, then social media is where you'll get shown out."

She's also appeared on Michael Berry's KTRH radio show.


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Blazeoffire
Blazeoffire

Honestly, I would do the same thing.  It seems a befitting punishment for the crime at hand.  Kids need to feel their punishments or they never learn the lesson.  I see nothing of emotional abuse about this.  Emotional abuse is neglecting that this happened and not giving a consequence.  Emotional abuse would be bringing your child down with harmful words.  Having your child admit they aren't ready for social media isn't harmful.... in fact; it's sounds just about right.  Being embarrassed by your parents when they correct you isn't the worst thing a parent could do.... they COULD let you be the idiot you are being and become an idiot adult who does idiotic things and becomes a total loser. 

PenguinMama
PenguinMama

Bravo! Kids need to understand that whatever you put out there, via social media and even text, is going to be around FOREVER and you have no control over what people do with it. If she had been posting sexting pics and her mother had her do this, would there be any question as to whether or not this is "abuse" or a mother actually stepping up and BEING a mother and teaching her daughter a lesson?

Guest
Guest

This whole thread makes me want to weep. What is WRONG with people these days?!

Wldhair
Wldhair

Emotional abuse?  WTH people! My mom used to whip my butt in public and I learned respect.  Now this child is going to be "ruined" and need therapy because her mom made her post sign that she's not ready for social media?  Underaged drinking is NOT a joke and since ADULTS don't seem to get the message that they shouldn't drink and drive, it starts with strong messages like this one.  I can't tell you how many times my husband and I have had to intervene with grown adults who think its okay for them to drive a car and they can barely stand up!  And these people are regular people like you and I, they aren't the town drunks.  But they go out for that one party and have one too many and think they're invincible.  My friend's daughter was killed by a teenage drunk driver so you guys can take your abuse boohoo and stuff it.  Her daughter deserved it because it takes a lot of guts to post yourself holding a liquor bottle with a message that alludes that you can't wait until you're old enough to drink. 

Blame Girl
Blame Girl

BS, not emotional abuse.  I love the fact that the kid is crying in the picture. It makes me laugh.  She's not abusing but giving consequences, there is a difference.

Guest
Guest

The fact that it made you LAUGH that a young girl was humliated and moved to tears because her mother is emotional abusing her means you are the literal definition of sadisitic: you take pleasure from other people's pain. Sick.

Wldhair
Wldhair

Having to lose your daughter to a drunk driver is pain, one that you never get over.  A teenager with their whole life ahead of them gets sentenced to years in prison because they chose to drink and crash their car under the influence that resulted in their friends' deaths is pain, as well as for the parents who are left without their children and the ones with the legal bills and their child incarcerated.  You don't just tell these kids don't do it and they go okay.  All punishment is painful and humiliating, that's why they call it punishment.  If it isn't, then stronger methods are needed.  This girl was trying to be cool and her mom checked her the best way she knew how. 

Guest
Guest

You wouldn't want your kid to cry during a punishment, right?  They learn best when you shower them in rainbows and cupcakes.

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