Comment of the Day: Judge William Adams & "Tough Love"
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The disturbing video of Texas judge William Adams beating his daughter with a belt for downloading music understandably sparked a lot of comments.
One reader talked about the positives of "tough love"; another didn't buy into that.
Matter of Pat wrote:
I think there is a need to demystify the whole "tough love" idea. It shouldn't be a "last resort" because good parenting should have been the first. I was beat to hell as a kid by a dad that did it at the drop of a hat, and a mother that would do it more sparingly and only in extreme cases. However, the worst punishment I ever got was my mom just crying. So, physical abuse is not necessary in teaching a child not to do something. All it does is teach the child that violence is an appropriate avenue to use to get your way. Think about it like this (I'll admit that this is borrowed from Louis C.K. but it is very apt): Children are the only people in the world that you are allowed to hit, and they are the most devastated by it. How does that make sense? If you punched me right now for no reason, I'm not going to be affected by it forever. However, if I was 7, it would probably stick with me for a while and affect my future behavior. I know it will, in fact, because it has affected my behavior.