SlutWalk Spills Stripper Heels, Rape Survivors Into the Streets

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Allies and victims of sexual assault whored it up for SlutWalk.
Houston woke up to a parade of fishnets, taped nipples and self-proclaimed sluts Saturday morning. Almost 100 allies and victims of sexual assault snaked through Montrose for SlutWalk, dropping jaws and stopping traffic.

SlutWalk was started in Canada, where a police officer advised a group of college women to stop "dressing like sluts" if they didn't want to be raped. But clothes don't cause rape. As one of the signs said, "Rapists cause rape."

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The woman's best friend came from California to march with her friend.
Many at the Montrose walk were survivors of rape. One young woman confined to a wheelchair, who didn't wish to use her name, held a sign that read, "I was a child. My PJs weren't sexy." She said she was raped six years ago and got HIV as a result. Through complications, she also developed cancer. "Life just sucks now," she said.

Darla Lathan, a trans woman, said she hopes people understand that rape is a crime of violence and not sex. "I was sexually assaulted by a bully in preschool and grade school, so I fought back," Lathan said. "I've been fighting back ever since."

Black-corseted and cat-eared Diane Schluter said that a culture of victim-blaming hurts women, but it's also insulting to men. "It says that men have no self-control whatsoever," she said. "Oh my god, I saw a boobie, I must fuck her! Hell, there are a lot of times I wish I could've compelled a guy to think like that," she laughed. "But that would be just as wrong."

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James Ozarth proves even men can be sluts.
Women aren't the only ones who get raped. Men-sluts were well represented, chafing in leather and chains down Westheimer. A chorus of "Hey, hey, ho, ho! Yes means yes and no means no!" blasted through a megaphone. James Ozarth, shirtless with black Xs taped to his nipples, marched to stop victim blaming. "As far as someone's dressed, that doesn't give anyone the right to consent," he said.

And for one morning-after in Houston, whispers of "She was asking for it" were drowned out by shouts of "No means no."

Feast your eyes on our SlutWalk slideshow here.

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H_e_x
H_e_x

If they are going to get attacked regardless, then why does it matter what they wear? Hell, women can completely cover up and they are still raped. What do you say about that? The only negative attitude is the one you have and try to instill in other women.

H_e_x
H_e_x

You need to revise your beliefs and stop blaming women. But no, you refuse to correct yourself and instead dig deeper. Who are you trying to convince here?

sympathetic but with open eyes
sympathetic but with open eyes

YEAH!!! stop blaming women. They are utterly blameless for EVERYTHING!! They didn't choose to be sluts. so if they're sluts and tempting the few disgusting men in this world it's not their fault!!!@268d4b9149fb154131040419a91cd059:disqus She is simply saying that it's as stupid to do this as it is to walk down dark alleys in mexico city. True if someone stabs you in the alley you're not to blame, they are. But it was pretty stupid of you to walk down that dark ally. Same goes here. If you don't do as much as you can to avoid a situation well then yeah you're partially(even if minimally) responsible in some way.

H_e_x
H_e_x

Rape and stabbing are completely different. One is a crime based on power and is sexual in nature, while the other is purely violent and usually involves robbing the victim. To compare the two is to show how little you know about the nature of rape and the power dynamics at play. You and that other commenter keep blaming the women for getting themselves in these situations, but the thing is your argument keeps boiling down to what they wear.And I have one more thing for you to address: Women wearing burqas are raped in the middle east. Would you say these women are bringing it upon themselves as well?

Guest
Guest

The walk is not about dress.  Did you really just say that?  The SlutWalk is completely about dress.  That is the BASIS of the walk.  The protest takes the form of a march, mainly by young women, where some dress in ordinary clothing and others dress provocatively, like "sluts."  The message gets lost because the 'dress' makes more noise than they do. 

I take someone in a suit more seriously that someone dressed like a clown when selling me health insurance. 

kittykat
kittykat

H_E_X-I don't think that "mommiedawn" or "sympathetic with open eyes" or whatever she is calling herself will ever get it.  She is a lost cause and not worth responding to.  The meaning of the slut walk is lost on her ( and others I am sad to say ).  The walk was not about dress, it was about victim blaming and that is something that she will never understand unless she has been through the legal system.

Kylejack
Kylejack

Except that the way a person is dressed has little effect on whether or not they'll be raped.  Rapists are looking for vulnerable victims, not people dressed a certain way.

Guest
Guest

I don't totally blame anyone. Sometimes alcohol or drugs is a factor.Sorry - if the fishnets fit....   There are men, that rape. There are women that dress like sluts.  And there are the chance that the two of them will cross paths. Stop acting like it doesn't happen.  It's not working. 

Guest
Guest

Just so we're clear - and the tons of you thinking that I am saying something I'm not - here. 

If you dangle pussy in front of most men, they'll eat the pussy...like the mice.  If you dress like a slut you will get attention of a negative and sexual nature.  If you get raped, it's not solely based on what you're wearing.  And by 'pay the consequences', you assume I mean rape.  I'm consistent....some of you are just huge ass-umers and put my words to mean what you want just so you have a scape goat to jump on. I've repeated the same sentiment through out.  I've even used all caps, to help some of you. But again, still, some of you don't get it.

I know what SlutWalk is about - I just feel it's stupid.  It's not going to change anything about rape, let alone prevent it. I don't see it as helping the cause, but hindering it. Even some women marching in their underwear with 'slut' scrawled on their skin. It's an overreaction to a stupid comment by an officer. Look past the words into his actual meaning - don't put yourself into a position where you're likely to be assaulted, sexually or otherwise - and it makes sense, and doesn't really need a march to "take back the word slut".My main objection is that dressing like a slut is pretty gross and degrading in my opinion, I don't know why anyone, male or female would want to consider themselves a slut, it is a negative word that people who have had numerous sexual experiences/partners shouldn't even have to have associated with them. To me it's like going "oh yeah, you're right then they are a slut" to said women.

kittykat
kittykat

Dawn-this will be my last response to you.  First, the nature of this last post is just hateful and VERY insulting to the vast majority of men who know that forcing themselves on a woman ( or any person ) is WRONG.  You are obviously very angry towards men.  Second, your reasoning sounds alot like the people who came to the defense of those young men and boys who stand accused of raping the 11 year old in Cleveland, Tx.  So many people in that town tried to shift the blame on her because of the way she dressed.  The reason for the slut walk is this: the defense should never try to use the way a victim was dressed, how or where she live or her sexual history as an excuse for the attack.  I don't care if you think that the slut walk was stupid or not.  I don't care if you really think that any scantily clad person is "asking for it".  The  point of the walk is to bring attention to the fact that many women who are raped are also put on trial for what they wear or how they behave or live and that is something that needs to be stopped.

Guest
Guest

LMAO Angry towards men?  I'm honest. Most of you can't get it.  As I've said a ton, if you want to dress like a slut, be my guest. You pull in so much that has nothing to do with SlutWalk. And you do care if I think it's stupid, you care a lot. 

Guest
Guest

Aerin- As I've said, rape sucks.  And as I so painfully have tried to make it clear -  that there are MULTITUDES of reason and motives to rape.  MY POINT IS the SlutWalk ...the name and the dressing like a slut (IN MY OPINION) hinders the message.  It's stupid. 

However, you as others have done nothing but internalize what I say and make it sound I think one way...and very close-mindedly.  

Dress like a slut, if you want.  Look like a slut if you want.  All the attention you get, will be sexual in nature. Period.  That is what I've said all along.  

Aerin Catherine
Aerin Catherine

Not only am I a survivor of rape, I am also a volunteer rape crisis advocate, providing support to victims in the ER.  Over the past four years I have been an advocate, none of my cases has ever included someone dressed like a "slut" or even being raped by a stranger.  You can teach your children to cover themselves up, and they may listen to you, but you will NOT have reduced their risk of being raped.  The "she was asking for it by dressing like a slut" theory is a rape myth and there is no statistical correlation between rape and what a woman is wearing.  Women dressed as "sluts" are in no more danger than those of us on a date in jeans and a long sleeve turtleneck.  The problem with your statement that "not all women" cause it is that you are assuming some do.  The only real thing you've accomplished is making innocent girls question the t shirt and jeans they were wearing, as most victim's misplace responsibility on themselves at some point.  Women do not cause themselves to be raped. Period.

H_e_x
H_e_x

Just stop. You have sufficiently put your foot in your mouth.

Chev 3/4 ton says you lose
Chev 3/4 ton says you lose

Oh my god my eyes my eyes..... I feel like I've been assaulted by these hideous fat and ugly, I'm going out on a limb here but, I think they were females of some sort. Puking now

michelle
michelle

I think the fact that the comments for this article about rape awareness have been taken over by people discussing the image of women kind of proves the point of why this rally was necessary. 

Guest
Guest

This rally is a blatant show of ignorance. I don't see it as helping the cause, but hindering it. Even some women marching in their underwear with 'slut' scrawled on their skin. It's an overreaction to a stupid comment by an officer. Look past the words into his actual meaning - don't put yourself into a position where you're likely to be assaulted, sexually or otherwise - and it makes sense, and doesn't really need a march to "take back the word slut".My main objection is that dressing like a slut is pretty gross and degrading in my opinion, I don't know why anyone, male or female would want to consider themselves a slut, it is a negative word that people who have had numerous sexual experiences/partners shouldn't even have to have associated with them. 

Nonsequiteuse
Nonsequiteuse

A few things it is important to say and to repeat:

There is nothing wrong with women dressing in short skirts, tight shirts, or high heels. There is nothing wrong with women wanting to attract attention to themselves by dressing in a certain way. There is nothing wrong with women wanting to attract other people to them - male or female - and dressing accordingly. There is also NOTHING WRONG with women having sex, or wanting to have sex.

There is something very wrong - and illegal - with a person forcing another person to have sex against his or her will, and it is very clearly the fault of the person committing the illegal act, not the fault of the person against whom the act is committed.

Others have said as much, but as long as boys and girls are growing up in houses with mothers who are confused about the issue, we have to keep saying it.

 

Guest
Guest

Slut Walk.  Slut.  Negative connotation to something that is supposed to be taken seriously. Slut = Rape. Not in everyone's book...but let's not lower ourselves. 

bibulb
bibulb

"There is something very wrong - and illegal - with a person forcing another person to have sex against his or her will, and it is very clearly the fault of the person committing the illegal act, not the fault of the person against whom the act is committed."

THIS. A THOUSAND TIMES OVER, THIS.

Alli
Alli

The vast majority of rape (not all) happens from somebody the victim knows. Clothing is not the reason, it's the disregard of a human body and mind.

I was in church clothes. I wasn't trying to be sexy.

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

And, if you WERE trying to be sexy, that does not = CONSENT!!!  You have every right to be sexy, if that is what you want...

Allie Kay
Allie Kay

The Slut Walk was organized to make a statement about victim blaming, to make people in our community aware of the harm statements like "well she should not have been walking to her car alone so late at night" or "she should not have been wearing that shirt" do to a victim of sexual assult.  If an individual is intent on sexually assulting someone they will, it does not matter what clothes the victim is wearing or where he or she is at the time the victimization occurs.  I thought the event went really well, it was a very nice turn out and the community was very supportive during the walk.   

Grant
Grant

I'm not sure how I feel about this. I get their point, but sort of disagree with the approach. Call me a puritan, but I think a lot of the clothing women (increasingly younger women at that) are wearing in public is appalling.  No, I'm not saying clothing inspires rape, but it definitely doesn't leave anything to the imagination. I also think it is extremely distasteful. Whatever happened to modesty?

H_e_x
H_e_x

No worry, patriarchy is alive and well. Women are still derided for what they wear and I don't think, unfortunately, things will change.

Guest
Guest

Rape is rape. Coming from a woman and a mother of two teenage daughters - if you dress like a slut you're asking for unwanted attention. Respect yourselves.   

 Literally, the definition of slut is –noun1. a dirty, slovenly woman.2. an immoral or dissolute woman; prostitute.  If you dangle cheese in front of a mouse, the mouse isn't going to respect the cheese's right to be cheese....it's going to eat that cheese up. Women, grow up. Put on some clothes and have some self respect. If you want to dress like a slut - pay the consequences....especially​ me calling your nasty selves out.

Thenonymous
Thenonymous

So, what you're really saying is, "If a woman has to be raped, at least she can be decently attired."

Thank you, madam. It's this sort of fundamental heartland values that this nation has been sorely lacking - ever since girls stopped dressing like a lady to be raped. Kids.

Guest
Guest

Asking for unwanted attention = Has to be raped.  How in the hell do you get that? What kind of ignorant hillbilly math are you using to come to your conclusion?

Guest
Guest

why do you love rape so much?

Guest
Guest

I can't tell you. It's YOUR logic that is equating me saying the words UNWANTED ATTENTION and equating it to rape. I can't help your comprehension. I can help the fact that when I educate my children regarding rape and unwanted attention and dressing like sluts - I don't use the SlutWalk as a positive springboard.

And the word is etiquette. Edicate is when you're not edumacated enough to spell etiquette.

Thenonymous
Thenonymous

You tell me. You're the rape-edicate expert.

HC
HC

Men don't rape because women wear "slutty" clothing, they will rape regardless of clothing.  I guess women wearing fatigues in Iraq and Afghanistan are way too slutty for males, because it is estimated that 1/3rd of women serving in the armed forces overseas are the victims of battle-related rape.

Nuns in the Medieval period would cut off their own noses to prevent rape (hence the term "cut off your nose to spite your face"), because raping nuns was common back then.  I guess the loose-fitting robes and habits were too sexy for Mongol hordes and barbarians.

Guest
Guest

Some men do 'rape' because of slutty clothing.  And some rape regardless of what you're wearing. I agree. I've stated as much.  Can some of you not even read? I feel like I'm in a room full of sheep.  

This is not pertaining to Medieval nuns or armed forces....it's pertaining to SlutWalk.  WTF are you even talking about? lmao

Guest
Guest

I feel like I'm talking to a doorknob.  I have said there are several factors. Rape isn't ALL about power.  There are several factors.  I don't understand why you keep wanting to skew what I'm saying, unless you have some incessant need to just argue for the sake of arguing.  

When a car gets broken into - and the person left their window down - most likely they are told "That's what you get".  It's not that they left the window down on purpose to get robbed.  Does that make sense? But they contributed to the multitude of factors. 

I have said - that dressing like a slut for a cause as serious as rape - is ludicrous. And I stand by that.  

If you had a daughter and she was walking out of the house to go out on the town, would you be alright with her wearing a bikini top and mini shorts and high heels?  Would you allow her dress like a, let's say, 'slut' because that's her right? Would you not worry for her safety?  Yes, we all worry for our children's safety, but even moreso by calling unwanted attention to themselves. THAT is my point.

We don't wear flashy jewelry in run down parts of town, because we don't want to get mugged.  Wearing my 4 carat ring in such a case doesn't mean I'm ASKING for it...it means I'm stupid and flashing something that someone else wants. I really do not understand why everyone is really fighting this 'slut' cause.  

Rape is a serious issue and dealing with it in such a matter is irresponsible. 

HC
HC

Men don't rape because of slutty clothing.  There are a variety of factors that contribute a a male being a rapist, ranging from a "rape gene" that causes excessive testosterone production to childhood abuse to a very poor image of women.  A normal man doesn't see a woman wearing slutty clothing and subsequently pounces on her.  A rapist will see a woman adorned in purdah and rape her regardless. 

I was making a statement that obviously referred to women getting raped despite wearing non-sexy outfits.  The huge battle-related rape epidemic in the military demonstrates that rapists will rape.  Rape isn't about clothing, it's about power.

kittykat
kittykat

Dawn, as a rape survivor who was told by a person who I thought was a friend at the time that I asked for what happened to me because I was living by myself, I personally find your comments to be somewhat upsetting.  Women don't ask fto be rapedbeause of  how they dress, or how they live.  Rape happens because a person ( usually a man ) has a twisted need to control or exert power over another individual.  Rape is very seldom about sex and is almost fully about power, control and an attempt to destroy aother human being

Guest
Guest

KittyKat  I won't go into my person life with you, but I'll repeat - as I've done on this very page.  I never - ever said that SIMPLY BASED on what you where is the cause of rape.  Please, this is exhausting.  HOWEVER my stance on SLUTWALK stands - it's retarded. And no, I don't encourage women to DRESS LIKE SLUTS.  

Everyone - stop being so sensitive to what I'm saying and READ what I'm saying. I have no want for my daughters to dress like sluts in response to what a cop says. I believe they have more intelligence to deal with it in a more productive way - rather than marching in the damn street dressed like a whore.  That being said - what I just wrote IN NO WAY states I said what you wear = rape.

Guest
Guest

In just about every news coverage of SlutWalk - who do you see?  I don't support a goal of an event who's way of doing it is bull.  Rape is a serious issue, and using the word 'slut' and dressing (some barely) in a fashion that defeats the whole purpose of an issue is ludicrous. Period. 

Kyle Nielsen
Kyle Nielsen

Okay, but your main objection is exactly the problem.  Like I said, we had women wearing burkas participating. You feel Slutwalk is stupid, but your main objection only addresses how some people at the walk were dressed.  You can dislike how some people dress if you wish, and still support the goals of the event.

Guest
Guest

I know what SlutWalk isabout - I just feel it's stupid.  It's not going to change anything aboutrape, let alone prevent it. I don't see it as helping the cause, but hinderingit. Even some women marching in theirunderwear with 'slut' scrawled on their skin. It's an overreaction to a stupidcomment by an officer. Look past the words into hisactual meaning - don't put yourself into a position where you're likely to beassaulted, sexually or otherwise - and it makes sense, and doesn't really needa march to "take back the word slut".

My main objection is thatdressing like a slut is pretty gross and degrading in my opinion, I don't knowwhy anyone, male or female would want to consider themselves a slut, it is anegative word that people who have had numerous sexual experiences/partnersshouldn't even have to have associated with them. To me it's like going"oh yeah, you're right then they are a slut" to said women. 

Kylejack
Kylejack

Dawn, I'm not sure that you know a lot about Slutwalk Houston (perhaps look at the photos), because we had all kinds there, including women in burkas.

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

I am sorry you had that experience.  I am glad YOU are not blaming yourself which puts you in a better position than some, for the healing to take place. 

"Dawn" will one day understand when she, or someone she knows (who dresses conservatively) gets raped.  She will be completely caught off guard thinking to herself "But, they dress ok, they did not ASK for it!!!  How could this have happened".

Guest
Guest

I never said that. What part of that do you not get?  You just really don't like the fact that I think women who dress like sluts are gross, do you.  

I never said a person's attire = consent.I never said anyone has the right to force sex on you because of your attire.I never said to blame any victim.

Where are you getting this? I really don't get it.

You want to dress like a slut - be my guest.  If for no reason at all just to prove that you can...go for it.  

Certainly the proposition that the primary responsibility for curbing aggressive responses to women who may be dressed in a highly sexualised way rests with the blokes exhibiting those aggressive responses is undeniably true.  Certainly the proposition that the primary responsibility for curbing aggressive responses to women who may be dressed in a highly sexual way rests with the men exhibiting those aggressive responses is undeniably true.

“Slutwalking” isn’t a courageous political act, it’s just mindless, imitative, populist stupidity.

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

The point that you do not seem to get is no one has the right to force you into sex because of your attire, or any other reason. The men and women of the world must learn to control their sexual/violent behavior. A person's attire does not equal consent. That is all they are trying to say. Oh, and don't blame the victim by telling them they "asked for it" simply because of the way they dress.

You talk negative about my education but cannot tell the difference between WEAR and where. Oh well, typos happen.

Guest
Guest

Listen Midwest chick - do not put words in my mouth. And don't assume it's cute what you're doing.  You have yet to get that what you are saying I said - I didn't.  Just because you make things up in your head, doesn't mean they actually happened. Get a grip and figure it out.  I never said you only raped based on what you where. 

Megan
Megan

You sanctimonious twit.  (I won't type what I actually thought.)  You started the name calling by lumping all women who show skin as sluts.  So what happens if your daughters are raped while wearing t-shirts and jeans?  Or a nice suit?  Or even a dress?  Were they "asking for it" then?  YOU and YOUR PREJUDICE are the reason rape victims are not taken seriously or believed in court.

bibulb
bibulb

That's great. Now, show me the line where someone's crossed into dressing like a slut - because there's a pretty good chance that you've already crossed someone else's line, which means that you've made yourself a target because of your wanton behavior. Hell, I bet someone could even see your neck right now, you slut, so I KNOW you're asking for it. Don't blame the clothes for the crime - blame the criminal. Otherwise, there's always an excuse - ALWAYS - and that excuse is never a valid reason for committing assault.

Guest
Guest

LMAO. I'm in a burka. I won't get raped.  I'm in a turtle neck. I won't get raped.  Do you really believe that's what I'm saying?  I don't even have time to waste on you. 

H_e_x
H_e_x

What the hell kind of mother tells your daughters that? God forbid men not rape women, regardless of their clothes. What next, wearing heels makes you a stripper?It doesn't matter what a woman wears. Hell, there are women who wear a full burqa who are raped. What would you say to those women?

Guest
Guest

What the hell kind of mother tells their daughters not to dress like sluts because they attention they get would not be positive attention? I hope every mother tells their daughter that!  Wearing heels will get you raped? Yes, that's exactly what I said....NOT.  Grow up. 

I NEVER SAID BASED ON WHAT YOU WEAR IS THE ONLY FACTOR TO GETTING RAPED.   

Guest
Guest

When a car gets broken into - and the person left their window down - most likely they are told "That's what you get".  It's not that they left the window down on purpose to get robbed.  Does that make sense? But they contributed to the multitude of factors. 

I have said - that dressing like a slut for a cause as serious as rape - is ludicrous. And I stand by that.   

" The entirety of your first post was about how women dress sluttily and get the worst type of attention--rape. "

The entirety of a SlutWalk is all about dressing like a slut. Yes? It's based on the word 'slut'.   Women dressed like a 'slut' DO get more negative attention than those dressed conservative in social settings. Please don't tell me you don't understand that.  

If you want to know how a 'slut' dresses - ask anyone in the SlutWalk. Because apparently they wear tape over their nipples, bikini tops, fishnets.... I didn't define it...they did. 

HC
HC

A woman's mere existence causes men to give negative attention.  When I was a teenager I dressed in a loose-fitting t-shirt and army-style camo pants, and men still stared agape at me and made cat-calls.  There was nothing sexy about what I was wearing--a camo jacket, camo pants, and a regular men's style shirt--and still they gave me negative attention. 

Explain what you meant by "pay the consequences" in the context of your statement.  The entirety of your first post was about how women dress sluttily and get the worst type of attention--rape.  There was causation clearly implied in your first post.

And please stop playing the victim here.  You're not winning anyone over when you act like the poor targeted woman who just wants women to dress "sensibly" (however you define that) and can't understand why everyone is misconstruing what you say.

Guest
Guest

LMAO.  If you dangle pussy in front of most men, they'll eat the pussy...like the mice.  If you dress like a slut you will get attention of a negative and sexual nature.  If you get raped, it's not solely based on what you're wearing.  And by 'pay the consequences', you assume I mean rape.  I'm consistent....some of you are just huge ass-umers and put my words to mean what you want just so you have a scape goat to jump on. 

I've repeated the same sentiment through out.  I've even used all caps, to help some of you. But again, still, some of you don't get it. 

HC
HC

You waffle positions more than a politician.  Your words were that if you dangle cheese in front of a mouse, the mouse will eat the cheese, effectively comparing women to food to be consumed in reference to clothing.  And you said women would "pay the consequences" for their clothing choices.  Now you're saying that you never said clothing causes rape.

Please be consistent.  If you're going to state your opinion, stand behind it and don't cow away and blame every other person who interpreted your statement as condoning rape.

Guest
Guest

Who said I said they are asking for rape?  But they ARE asking for attention....and 9x's out of 10 that attention is of a sexual nature. Does it lead to rape? Sometimes.  You can't argue that. But don't put words in my mouth like you have been doing. 

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

I do understand what you are trying to say and I do not appreciate the way some teens I know dress provocatively ~ by the way, I am not a provocative dresser myself.  I do encourage more modesty because of the "uninvited attention" which you speak about.  It is just more comfortable for me.  However, if they do decide to dress provocatively, they are NOT asking for rape.  It is a fine line.

Brittanie Shey
Brittanie Shey

Nothing in the definition you cite says anything about clothes. So tell me — what do sluts dress like?

In some countries — hell, even in the US 50 years ago — women who wear pants are/were considered sluts. You don't wear pants, do you?

Guest
Guest

Can you tell a prostitute from a librarian? 90 to 1 you can...she'll be the skank.  The sluts are the ones..let's see...I'll take a stab in the dark...the ones dressing like anyone that posts their photos on The Buzz blogs.  That's a good example.  Yes, I wear pants, and I've been known in my day to wear low cut shirts (I'm old now so I know no one wants to see that) and the attention I got was the attention I was looking for. I'm not stupid.  If you want to dress like a prostitute, be my guest.  Self respect goes far...farther than any intention you want to get across while you're knee deep in pasties and fishnets. 

Guest
Guest

Are you marching in SlutWalk in your underwear demanding to be called a slut?  If the answer is no, then I have nothing to say to you. Try reading what I've written here...over and over as if I'm talking to a braindead retard.  And as far as your mother, goodie for her, she can recite an old book.  We're human. It's human nature to be judgmental.  You're giving me your life story, unwarranted, because I think SlutWalk is counterproductive?  Weird. 

kittykat
kittykat

how do you tell if someone is a "skank"? I would really like to know.  Dawn, I have been judged the majority of my life simply because of the way I developed ( quite young and very obviously ).  I was not able to dress like the majority of the girls my age simply because I was told that I would attract the wrong kind of attention.  I didn't matter anyway because I still attracted the wrong kind of attention from men who where much older than I was, and it scared me to death.  No matter what I wore I still had men who wanted to know if they were "real".  Try dealing with being treated like a "slut" simply because of what mother nature gave you and then go on to judge other women because of the way they dress.  I know of a good number of women who dress very simply and plainly and yet they are the "skankiest" of creatures  and I know of a good number of women who dress for attention, yet they are some of the most modest of people.  There are times when you simply can't tell.  As my mother always taught me "judge not lest ye be judged".  Try giving it a rest, dress the way you feel and try not to judge other women so much.

Guest
Guest

How many years of reading do they give you in the Midwest?  Did you not read literally what's above where you put in your comment?

If your daughters want to dress like SLUTS that's fine.  They can.  Mine won't.  Not because I think they'll just get raped for what they're wearing but because they have MORE self esteem and self respect.  Jesus Christ you're hard headed. 

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

REPEAT!!!  (Pay attention MommieDawn) There are women who get raped in full burkas.  So, it is their fault for dressing slutty???  CLOTHES DO NOT CAUSE RAPE, RAPISTS DO!

Guest
Guest

Only if I chose to look at the pictures....these pictures...up there?  Whatever, if I chose to or not - SlutWalk is ridiculous.

And if you can pay attention - I've never said rape is the result of what you wear. However, it doesn't help the cause.  Don't ever feel sorry for my daughters and don't ever put words into my mouth. You don't know me.  Pay attention. 

Dress like a whore - you will be perceived as a WHORE...skank, slut, prostitute. Whatever. Unwanted and negative attention. That's what dressing like a slut gets you. Don't be so PC and ignorant.  If it's a comparison you want, please do so.  It's not hard.  Rape is rape - regardless of what you're wearing or how old you are.  Take murder - are all murders the same? Are they all motivated by the same factor? Are they all commited by the same type of people? NO. Rape is the same - not based on just one reason, basis, or what have you. 

Rape does have to do with what you wear...AND how you carry yourself...AND where you are....AND TONS OF OTHER FACTORS you moron. 

Kelpix
Kelpix

If you really look at the pictures only a very small percentage of the Slutwalk chose to dress  scantily...the rest are regular everyday outfits...jeans and teeshirts.  Of course, the media only choose to feature the scantily clad ones. 

And the line at the bottom of article is nothing short of disrespectful.  "Feast your eyes on our SlutWalk slideshow here."  Great job Houston Press.  You obviously don't get it either.

I feel sorry for your daughters that you see rape as their fault, should it ever happen.  I just hope it doesn't.

Rape has nothing to do with your clothing.

Kylejack
Kylejack

Hi Dawn,A person's clothing doesn't have much to do with whether or not they get raped.  The Slutwalk featured several rape survivors, one of who was a child wearing pajamas and another who was wearing a military uniform.  Furthermore, clothing doesn't ask for anything.

Guest
Guest

What a person wheres has a lot to do with getting raped,attacked, stalked and etc. Yes...children get raped too. it's sad, but I'm not talking about children.  Why do women wear stilletos?  Fishnets? Mini skirts?  Here's a hint, it's not because they're so comfortable. 

Guest
Guest

Your comment makes me think you know a lot about being a moron. Did I say anything about what a pro I am on rape? STFU

Guest
Guest

Your comments make me think that you don't know much about rape.  

melissa
melissa

"Besides, dressing like a slut is just sad, pathetic, needy and gross." none of which has anything to do with rape whatsoever.

Guest
Guest

Does unwanted attention to YOU mean rape?  I never said clothes make you get raped - unwanted attention, yes.  But these 'SlutWalks' are giving a mixed message to people...especially young girls.  Besides, dressing like a slut is just sad, pathetic, needy and gross. 

michelle
michelle

"if you dress like a slut you're asking for unwanted attention. Respect yourselves."

Unwanted attention = rape?   

Hjenks
Hjenks

Women like you are the reason why men can't evolve.  You give them the excuse.  Well, as a woman and a mother of a teenage daughter, I can only hope that your daughters don't have to go through this cancerous form of thinking that you breed.  "Slutty" could be interpreted as anything that shows skin, for some men.  It's all open for interpretation.  You really insult men by comparing them to a rodent with a brain designed for pure survival and not for humane thinking.  We're human, stupid, get a biology lesson.

Craig
Craig

Both you and your girls should consider dressing better.  It's help your world point of view.

Guest
Guest

I'm the reason men can't evolve? I don't clump men together as a whole.  There are some that have half a brainstem, the rest is in their pants. And there are gentlemen.  Then a whole soup in between of types of men. If my daughters were to dress 'slutty' they would not make it out of the house.  Any example of someone marching down the street in the SlutWalk is a good example as to NOT how to dress.  It's gross... Why do women wear stilletos?  Fishnets? Mini skirts?  Here's a hint, it's not because they're so comfortable.

I'm not stupid.  If I wanted free drinks all night..how do you think I would get them? If I wanted a man to pay my rent, car note or lunch tab how do you think I would get that? Dressing and acting a slut is one way.  If you are wearing fishnets and pasties...why ?  What's a really good reason for wearing fishnets....ATTENTION.  Is that going to get your raped? Have I said THAT?!  No...but it LEADS DOWN A PATH that is less stellar than what one wishes. 

Grow up and don't name call. 

Guest
Guest

Yes, because using the abbreviation for something is horrible. When at a loss for a better term, it's allowed.  Once again - let me see if I can draw this out for some of you.  IF YOU DRESS LIKE A PROSTITUTE YOU WILL GET NEGATIVE ATTENTION WHICH MAY LEAD TO A RAPE OR SOMETHING OF THE LIKE. 

How's that?  SlutWalk is retarded.  The idea based on one quote from one cop that twisted someone's knickers.  Dressing like a SLUT to prove a point is just ridiculous. Why not go naked? That will be next. 

Now, as far as how I run my household, can you predict how many children my kids will have? Since you think you know everything...lol.  And once again, in closing to you  Midwest Mom...please pay attention - as I've had to repeat this several time. NO WHERE DID I SAY DRESSING LIKE A SLUT = RAPE. Sometimes STFU isn't such back advice. 

midwestmomof2
midwestmomof2

You are the one with STFU comment.  Nice roll model for your teens!! Plenty of women dress just as YOU prefer (covering it up) but will sleep with anyone they want to at the time.  Guess what?  Grown ups can sleep with any consenting person they want to sleep with.

If your children are teens, I predict you are in for a rude awakening. As soon as they are out of your Al Quaeda clutches they will experiment with life!  I wish them great luck.  They will NEED IT! (God forbid that they get raped because, according to their mother, it will be their fault!)

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