Comment of the Day: Reading About Reckless Parents While Trying to Adopt

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We have some great commenters here on Hair Balls, and it's time we paid some damn attention to them.

So we'll be highlighting a Comment of the Day each morning, from the previous day's work. Maybe two comments, even.

This will all be determined by a highly rigorous scientific formula involving wit, clarity and whatever else we feel like at the moment.

We wrote about Jessica Grays, a woman allegedly found stoned out of her mind on PCP, driving five mph down a country road with an infant in the car.

That roused one reader, who says he and his wife have been trying in vain to adopt.

MadMac wrote:

Stories like this drives me nuts. My Mrs and I have been trying to adopt for >3 years, mostly trying to adopt children born to folks like this, (winning!). We read in the Chronicle how minorities don't adopt and how minority children are languishing in foster care. As a bi-racial couple we thought this was a sign from God.

Three years later, we're tired of hearing how our attitude-- that the adoption should be closed, no contact, end of story-- is what is keeping us from getting a child.

This chick's been charged with child endangerment but I bet they put the kid back with her inside of a year, while Catholic Charities/Depelchin/CPS work another round of 'certification' fees and foster care rackets.

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I think it odd that as someone who has seen both sides of adoption, that someone would have the balls to say to you that the reason you are not able to get a child to adopt is because you want "no contact" with the birth parents. Personally, as someone who opted for an "open adoption" I know that just because it says open doesn't mean that the birthparents actually see the child physically or even speak to the kids. But it does give them some comfort thinking that at least if there was an "act of God" event to occur, they could call the adoptive parents and know that they are okay. Of course, I can understand as my mother was "closed adopted " back in the sixties, when nobody spoke to their children about such issues, how it is for someone that grows up being adopted to never know about the issue, and come to terms with it as they grow up. I know that it can be negative either way, but to me if someone has issues with things like drugs and refuse to get help, they shouldn't be a "parent" to their child. Parenting is a responsibility that takes more than just doing what you want while your child "exists with you", and if someone who is clean and sober could have the opportunity to give one of the several hundred thousands or more children in the systems a home, stability, and love, then I am in full support. Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Racial, Christian, or otherwise, there are some times that anything is better than nothing, and having someone to give you a life without the neglect and abuse that comes from a parent with a severe problem like drug addiction is so much better of an option to my opinion than to have them experience such traumas again and again that having an addict for a parent would surely provide them.

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