Five Ways to Spot a Frenemy & Why They're Really Not The Best Idea
Photo by Mike Nelson A checklist for true friends
Ever question whether or not your friends are really your friends? I think all of us females are guilty of it. We become friends with that woman we aren't sure we can trust... And unfortunately we live in a society that encourages us to adopt these "frenemies" as if there is some benefit to being friends with them. Well if you're like me, you'd rather have no friends than a bunch of fake friends... so here are five ways to spot a frenemy.
5. She likes to gossip. If she likes to talk to you about that "horrible outfit that so and so is wearing" or thinks "that guy could do so much better than her" or if her favorite show is The Kardashians, then you need to run away. It doesn't take too much common sense to know that people that talk negatively about other people without good reason are usually talking about you the same way. Another give away is that she will also dig for dirt. If you feel often times that with her you are being interrogated then stop yourself before you tell her too much. She wants to have dirt on you. And move away.
4. They're never happy for your accomplishments.... In other words, they always have to one up you. Sometimes they want what you have and hate if you get it first. Why?? Who knows, but it really bugs them not to be the best. This applies for guys too, who tend to be just as competitive as females when it comes to jobs and relationships.
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3. You don't feel you can trust her with just anything. Could you tell her a secret and know that she won't tell a soul? Do you feel you can tell her even the most horrible thoughts in your mind and she won't judge you? If you have to think for more than five seconds about the answers to these questions then you have a frenemy. A true friend is someone who will be there for you no matter what. Someone that tries to relate to your problems and who will listen without judgment, but will also always give you an honest answer. Frenemies will tell you what you want to hear and could care less about giving good advice. In fact, they know that's not what there giving, but are hoping you're dumb enough to take it.
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