10 New Year's Resolutions for a Feminist Man From Texas

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Bill Curtner
The author looking off into the distance for answers (Also looking like a pompous git)
2013 was... an interesting year as far as the rights of women were concerned. Especially if you live here in Texas where we considered unsupervised uteruses to be slightly less dangerous than illegal immigrants, but slightly more dangerous than homosexuals having the same rights as others. On the sliding Yee Haw scale of Texas dumbfuckery, women's rights sits at least in the top 30 percent.

I spend a fair amount of time being pissed off at the ignorance, lack of empathy, and just obliviousness of many of my peers and brethren, but I can't do much to change sow's ears into silk purses. So I've decided to work on myself instead in order to raise the average level of understanding between the sexes a degree or two.

10. I will be more vigilant about the right of consent to enter personal space. I'm a hugger by nature, but I've noticed that when I meet many women in person that I've previously known only through social media my physical affection tendencies can be off-putting. In the future I will try very hard to definitively ask first if I can touch them.

9. I will stop using the word "cunt" no matter how cool I think it sounds in British crime dramas. It just doesn't translate the same as my other Anglophelic affectations. I make no promises, though for when an opportunity to make a pun on "country" or "contrary" arises. I'm only human after all.

8. When the opportunity presents itself in a video game or other media to assume a female avatar or main character I will do so. In single player it allows me to experience trials and tribulations through point of view I am less able to directly ascribe to my own. In multiplayer, it will allow me to experience anonymous interactions with others as women do.

7. I was raised to open the door for her, pull out her chair, help her with her coat, and offer to carry heavy loads for her. I will still do these things, but I will also start doing them for men as well in order to avoid treating women as incapable or as objects to be serviced. Plus, it's a nice thing to do and the world can always use more of that.

6. I will stand up when I hear misogyny and other anti-women rhetoric espoused in my presence. At the very least I will politely make it known that I don't agree with such thoughts just because I happen to be a man. Most of the troubles in the world could be done away with if we'd just remind people that the views they hold are cruel and not at all popular.

5. I will actively seek out things which are not pink for my daughter. Pink's a fine color, of course, but the constant one-sided color coding of everything to designate what belongs to her sex and what belongs to mine is starting to get irritating. When people get color-coded throughout history, it rarely turns onto an ice-cream-and-cake party.

4. Though I think that Sweden's employment of the Bechdel Test in film (In which to pass two named female characters must talk to each other about something other than a man) in their ratings system is a bit much. I'm going to be more aware of the test when watching movies and judge them accordingly. For instance, I loved American Hustle, but as far as I am aware of it utterly failed that test. You have to wonder why that is.

3. When I talk about women in articles I will try very hard to not mention what I think of their physical appearance unless it directly relates to their art or music. Sometimes it does of course, but for the most part it's just mindless objectifying filler at best. Especially since most articles come with pictures anyway so why do it at all?

2. I will stop suggesting that girls kiss each other for drinks... that shit is really juvenile.

1. Finally, I will do whatever my time and pocketbook will allow to help Wendy Davis get elected governor of the state of Texas. It's not just because I believe in her message, though I very much do. It's also that I'm tired of people reading articles like this one and sending me emails expressing surprise that a viewpoint like mine exists in the Lone Star State. It's well past time we cleaned up this backwards media image we show the rest of the country. If there is an anti-Rick Perry, it's Wendy Davis.

Jef has a new story, a tale of headless strippers and The Rolling Stones, available now in Broken Mirrors, Fractured Minds. You can also connect with him on Facebook.


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4 comments
cfein
cfein

Excellent. Gotta add, good luck on the pink thing. I had trouble finding non-pink, non-lavender clothing (and other things) for little girls back in the 1980s. Want a pair of pants that's just solid freaking royal blue or standard red or, heaven forbid, grey? Go to the boys' department. Grrr. 

Tennis shoes: Same problem (and that one NEVER goes away). When you're lucky enough to find a solid black pair, there's always some little bit of pink piping or trim SOMEWHERE, evidently required by law, to announce to the world that you, despite wearing black tennis shoes, are indeed the proud owner of a vagina.

MadMac
MadMac

Number one for the win. I'm sure that's shocking coming from me. But, "When people get color-coded throughout history, it rarely turns onto an ice-cream-and-cake party." is money.

By way, I had no idea what the Bechdel Test is. Thanks, on the tip-side. I must contemplate this--and how it relates to my writing--on the tree of woe. This is right up there with finding out "Jekyll and Hyde, Together Again," is not the sensitive love story I thought it was.

SarahBelham
SarahBelham

I was a kid in the late '70s-early '80s and let me tell you Internets, this color-coding shit was not ANYWHERE near as bad as it is now. I feel awful for any little girl who doesn't like pink these days.


(inb4 "omg why don't you like pink, why do you hate your gender, omg femmephobia" it's not "femmephobia," it's a goddamn color preference, you wouldn't bat an eye if I said "I don't like green," so why do some people lose their shit when I say "I don't like pink?")

MadMac
MadMac

That's me with burnt umbre.

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