The Path to Being Pro-Life: What It Really Means

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I've decided to become pro-life. It was actually a really easy decision that I thought long and hard about, and I realize that me becoming pro-life will probably alienate many of readers. Let me explain my reasons...

Access to safe and cost effective abortions actually prevents more abortions than restrictions and bans. Counter-intuitive, I know, but worldwide data supports this. I am pro-life because I think abortion should be safe and legal in order for there to be fewer of them.

Access to affordable birth control is what really brings down abortion rates. I am pro-life because I think that the easier people can get birth control the less they'll have an unwanted pregnancies.

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The Line Between Fetus and Child From an IVF Father

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Comprehensive sex education is also a great way to reduce unwanted pregnancy, especially in teens. I'm pro-life because I support expanding sex-education in schools and certainly none of this abstinence-only nonsense, though abstinence should be mentioned.

Restrictions and bans on abortion not only don't reduce the number of aborted pregnancies, they add to the number off horrific tragedies of self-performed abortions that can end in death of the mother as well as the child. I'm pro-life because I think it is better to lose a child than the child and the parent.

Some women might be more inclined to keep their children if they could be guaranteed proper care. I'm pro-life because I believe women of all economic backgrounds deserve access to pre and post-natal care.

Not every fetus is viable. Things go wrong... a lot. Up to 35 percent of time. I'm pro-life because I believe that it is not wrong to have an abortion to save the life of the mother.

Raising a child is expensive, especially if you're on your own. That cost can drive women to terminate their pregnancies. I'm pro-life because I believe we should work towards a world where we raise people out of poverty and give them a net so they won't take a child with them if they fall.

Some children are conceived in rape, or in abusive relationships. I'm pro-life because I believe no woman should spend the rest of her life tied to someone who has hurt her with a child as a hostage.

I'm pro-life because I am interested in reducing abortions, not pretending that the world is perfect and every baby can be born and raised fine if you just "love them enough." I'm pro-life because I realize that abortion is going to happen no matter what, and you can't tackle the underlying reasons for that by being sad and trying to shame the mother. I'm pro-life because I think the abortion rate is too high, but am under no illusions that it will ever be zero.

Abortion is sad and bloody and heartbreaking. I am pro-life because I care about the woman who goes through that. She is a player in this, too.

I AM pro-life, and some of you are going to have to come to terms with what that actually means.

Jef With One F is a recovering rock star taking it one day at a time. You can read about his adventures in The Bible Spelled Backwards or connect with him on Facebook.


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Sarah Stewart
Sarah Stewart

I'm not divorced. Just because I have opinions about my own choices about my body doesn't make me a bad bitter old maid. I'm 28 dude.

hinkle.wh
hinkle.wh

cathiwalsh - as you illustrate in your second sentence, too many of us pro-choice folks have a tendency to limit our arguments to the emotional -- "don't trust the government." Jef has instead chosen the logical, and virtually undeniable arguments. Since the bumper-sticker approach has manifestly failed, maybe we should all memorize Jef's approach and use it in our letters to the editor, public debates, sermons, speeches, and private discussions.

Stu Cooper
Stu Cooper

So do you not masturbate Michael? If you do, you're a huge hypocrite. Those are technically babies if you go by your logic.

Stu Cooper
Stu Cooper

And who suggested killing 2 or 3 year olds? You sound like a very mis-informed individual, I've never EVER heard of that. Sounds like you are trying to be a fear monger.

Stu Cooper
Stu Cooper

Henry, do you ever masturbate? I'm willing to bet you have, and that is millions of "offspring" that are now residing in your bedroom floor. It's all subjective.

Juli Morrison
Juli Morrison

Actually abortion rates and statistics vary based on region. In Texas very few abortions are from Hispanic women or girls because of their culture and catholic religion. And yes African American women tend to abort more than carry to term. Mainly because of poverty and ignorance. But Plenty of educated white college students abort too.

Henry McRae Dillard
Henry McRae Dillard

Francisco, did you know that "fetus" is latin for "offspring"? Basic human biology dictates that when a male sperm fertilizes an egg; a new living human organism comes to life. A fully-formed baby is obviously not dead before it is born (it never was) and with 3K abortions a day, that's a lot of unwanted offspring. Statistically about half of the aborted offspring are black babies; which is probably a wet dream for the KKK. More over, a few scientists are already making a case that post-"abortions" should be allowed for children up to age 2 or 3. I would say that as the human species, we should not have the goal post so far back in a debate to where we are discussing whether we condone the killing of unwanted offspring, but rather how we can prevent unwanted pregnancies. Ultimately I believe men are to blame for unwanted pregnancies (since their sperm is to blame), and a large majority of abortions are because women don't want the pregnancy, not because it is life-threatening (in which case killing your own offspring would be understandable if you place your life above theirs).

Francisco Muñiz-Belmares
Francisco Muñiz-Belmares

And this article attempts to be nice and sweet. But neglects to take into consideration that the same people passing these restrictions and bans are also the same people who are under the impression that abstinence is the answer. Refuse to teach our young about safe-sex and contraceptives. That they refuse to help those in need, because "they're just leeching off the system". That they keep education away from the less fortunate, or worse, pervert the Sciences and the Histories. Nice thoughts that are in no way supported by current truths. How does the writer propose we go about changing these things? Because currently, Texas is going about it all backwards.

Francisco Muñiz-Belmares
Francisco Muñiz-Belmares

Its kind of absurd how ridiculously misinformed people are on the subject. -They either consider that an abortion revolves around an actual fully formed baby is being aborted. Which is entirely false. A conglomerate of cells is not a fully formed conscious baby, people. OR -Do not take into consideration that women who are having abortions at 20 weeks make up less than 2.0% AND that the women having these abortions are having them due to medical reason. As in, their lives are at risk and it is recommended by the doctors. But whatever. I guess if that Republican man is telling me that G-d mandated these laws, then I must obey. Fuck women and fuck their well being. Am I right? Is that the gist of it all?

Eric Dellafave
Eric Dellafave

Sarah is in idiot and probably divorced. When you live in truth with trust and respect.... sex with your soul mate is safe and is the best sex ever. But liberaltards want to be able to have there cake and eat it to.

Michael Tate
Michael Tate

The brutality involved with killing a developed baby, epspecially after 4 months is sickening.If people were shown the abortion of a baby being cut up in the womb and then sucked out with a vacum hose piece by peice, very few would support it.

MCRT1973
MCRT1973

The brutality involved with killing a developed baby, epspecially after 4 months is sickening.If people were shown the abortion of a  baby being cut up in the womb and then sucked out with a vacum hose piece by peice, very few would support it.

Lee-Ann Nyman
Lee-Ann Nyman

I consider myself pro-choice. I believe a woman has the right to choose what is best for her and her body. But I have to agree with part of this bill. An abortion after 20 weeks is absurd! Lets do the math...5 months! Now the rest of the bill closing down numerous clinics is wrong.

Michael FunkyButt Peck
Michael FunkyButt Peck

When I realized that 'fetus' is a euphemism for unwanted person, I realized absorption is murder.

cathiwalsh
cathiwalsh

you could be pro-choice for all the same reasons.  how is your pro-life different from my pro-choice?

the point is that NO ONE but the pregnant woman should make the decision, or she becomes a hostage to the conceptus, the child.  and the same people who want to make the decision for her have ZERO solutions for caring for the unwanted child.

Sarah Stewart
Sarah Stewart

I agree man. No safe sex anywhere. Men do not have an opinion about anything to do with the woman's body. Get over yourself men. We (women) have the right to do whatever we want with our bodies...your just the seed donor. Not the one who's pregnant! I do want to have free healthcare for all women no matter what. And hopefully in my lifetime that should happen. Women's needs are far more expensive than a man's. Somebody out there listen and hopefully one day it will be the new norm!

Sarah Stewart
Sarah Stewart

Theres no safe sex IN marriage either dude! Wake up!

leyendecker.mary
leyendecker.mary

heyy Hon, you done? GET A VASECTOMY  (and have a nice day)

Andy Gerard
Andy Gerard

The article calls teaching abstinence only " Nonsense " and recommends teaching safe sex and making abortions safe . There is no such thing as safe sex outside of marriage , period ! This author is Not Pro-life !

Andy Gerard
Andy Gerard

Abstinence is Not Nonsense ! There is No such thing as safe sex outside of Marriage !

conebaby
conebaby topcommenter

Yes with one s.

Monica Sarkar
Monica Sarkar

Feels like there should be a new movement. Pro-life + Pro-choice. As opposed to folks who are just plainly NO-Choice.

Stephen Conley
Stephen Conley

There are women who oppose abortion too. All I ever see are the same old arguments but nobody is really saying anything.

Rhonda Austin Meredith
Rhonda Austin Meredith

Sarah, men do have an opinion. They helped create the life inside the womb. Such a selfish point of view. Your body stops becoming your body alone when there is a life growing inside. Think about it.

Sarah Stewart
Sarah Stewart

That's great that their funding birth control and women's needs. I knew that. I know he's not antiabortion but a lot of people are. That's why I said what I said. It was mostly for the government and stupid people.

Ken Roberts
Ken Roberts

And even if he were anti-abortion, if you want to have useful commentary, it's good to read the article to understand his logic and then express your objections to his specific thought process rather than a generalized reiteration of a debate that everyone's heard numerous times. That's not to say you're wrong. The government should stay out of your uterus except to fund birth control, pap smears, and other health care.

James Rains
James Rains

Come on, it's the Houston Press. Do you think they're really capable of honestly representing an opposing narrative?

Ken Roberts
Ken Roberts

Sarah, read the article rather than just the title. He may have a different definition of pro-life than you. He's not anti-abortion.

Sarah Stewart
Sarah Stewart

That's great and all that yall are doing this, but if you do not have a uterus...you have NO opinion about what women do with their bodies. I'm prochoice. A female should have the right to do whatever she wants to do with her own body. Stay out of this government!!! It's not your place!

JefWithOneF
JefWithOneF topcommenter

@Chris Watkins *small bow*

yachtrockable
yachtrockable

@cathiwalsh Stepping back, looking at the bigger picture, no man or woman has a right to kill an innocent person.  I agree that the authors reasons are the same ones that pro-aborts use.  Moral adjustments are necessary to protect life.  Just think, each life that is snuffed out at birth potentially has his or her potential family tree snuffed out too. :(

GoodChemistry
GoodChemistry

@Andy Gerard Reading comprehension fail. The author is not pro-life in the classical sense. He is explaining why typical pro-life positions actually lead to more unwanted pregnancies and abortions. Abstinence-only sex education is used as an example because, statistically, students who are not exposed to comprehensive sex ed are MUCH more likely to become pregnant. Teenagers are stupid and are going to have sex, period. You can tell them not to until you're blue in the face, but unless you're ALSO teaching them how to wrap it up, then you are only contributing to the thing you're trying to prevent.

Jerzygirl45
Jerzygirl45

@Andy Gerard  (I apologize if this posted twice)   "There is no such thing as safe sex outside of marriage , period " 

I'm not really understanding your argument.  How does having sex in the marriage account for safety?  What is your definition of "safe"?  Are you saying sex without marriage is absolutely "unsafe"?

As for calling abstinence only teaching nonsense, I think that's completely valid. Teaching a position without complete facts is utter nonsense and completely dishonest. The article didn't say abstinence should not be brought up, it stated that it should be mentioned. But most people, would like to learn complete facts, not skewed viewpoints, inaccuracies and outright lies.

Teaching beyond abstinence-only will allow people to make fully-informed decisions for their own life.

JefWithOneF
JefWithOneF topcommenter

@Jennifer Edgerton Doig In return I request the most epic of fist-bumps!

JefWithOneF
JefWithOneF topcommenter

@Monica Sarkar I like that. I'll use it in the future

JefWithOneF
JefWithOneF topcommenter

@Elaine Mesker-Garcia Apparently a great many people did not :(

JefWithOneF
JefWithOneF topcommenter

@Sarah Stewart Umm... did you read the article?

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