Basic, Practical Sex Tips For the Married Man
That physical closeness is very important to both of you whether you know it or not. The sex is just the end product and ultimate expression. When's the last time you came up behind your wife and just hugged her? Held her hand in public? Picked her up and carried her for the sheer thrill of it? When you lose those things in a relationship, sex is just the last of them to go. Maintaining regular touching in couples is a key component.
Do Not Build It Up In Your Head: There's going to be a point in any marriage where you wake up and realize you've haven't had sex in a multi-month long period. Like I said, work, school, kid, whatever gets in the way and it just didn't happen.
The worst thing you can do is think, "Man, it's been so long this is going to be awesome!" Especially if you decided that the first night back in the saddle is going to be the one where you try to spring every weird idea you've had in the dry spell on her at once. Trust me, this isn't going to work, and you're just going to get mad when she refuses to wear a wig and call you Caesar.
The kinky stuff is for the advanced class. You are attempting the sexual equivalent of missing the gym for a quarter of the year, then immediately trying to do an hour of hard weights. No, you have to build back up to that.
Talk After Sex: In all likelihood the person you're married to is the last person you are planning on ever taking to bed. They are your partner until one of you dies or the whole thing falls apart. You need to be honest and make sure that both of you are getting what you want out of sex.
After you've had your fun, you'll find yourself relaxed, open, and connected to your wife. Ask her about how the sex was, and be a man when she tells you. There are probably things that she wants you're not doing, or things she used to like she no longer does. Find out what those are and try to adjust your technique accordingly. If this sounds like some kind of sexual martyrdom, don't worry. If you prove you're willing to adapt to her needs, any woman worth marrying will reciprocate happily.